Mindful Divorce Dialogue Part one

  1. Choose who goes first

  2. No Time Limit – each party speaks without interruption

  3. Speak directly to the other party

  4. Describe your goals for the future and your vision for the outcome of the final resolution

  5. Share your concerns about what you need and any concerns about the actions of the other party

  6. Describe areas of conflict that have occurred

  7. Acknowledge the positive personal attributes and contributions of the other party

  8. Point out the common values that you have with the other party

  9. Invite questions and discussion 

Mindful Divorce Dialogue Part two

Mapping Your Unique Situation

  • Identify all issues that need resolution in your specific circumstances

  • Determine priorities and concerns for each spouse

  • Create a customized roadmap addressing your family's particular needs

  • Consider special factors like international assets, career transitions, or unique family dynamics

Financial Documentation Review

  • Complete financial disclosure forms required for your jurisdiction

  • Gather and organize essential financial records:

    • Tax returns (last 3-5 years)

    • Bank and investment account statements

    • Retirement account information

    • Real estate documents

    • Business ownership records

    • Debt statements (mortgages, loans, credit cards)

    • Income verification (pay stubs, self-employment records)

    • Insurance policies

    • Personal property inventories

Mindful Divorce Dialogue Part three

Practical Agreement Testing

  • Evaluating proposed arrangements to ensure real-world feasibility

  • Confirming financial sustainability of support and asset division plans

  • Assessing whether parenting schedules align with family logistics and needs

  • Creating opportunities to revise terms until they're truly workable

  • Identifying potential implementation challenges before finalizing agreements

  • Ensuring arrangements can adapt to foreseeable life changes